Try a cliché.

Most people avoid using clichés as they say that they are over used, so they should rather try to be creative by approaching things differently and not using “ready -made” statements or methods but rather come up with innovative ones so that they can be different and stand out from the rest. In some arcticles you read, you find that there are some writers who don’t mind using clichés, as clichés have the ability to make a clear statement, because people are familiar with them so meanings are easily established.

Clichés don’t apply to just statements, a cliché can be a set method or a formula for doing something that has been followed for years without question. Sometimes you think that it is rather safe to follow or use something that has been tried and tested. Maybe you should keep it safe and try a cliché, who knows it may just work well.

I am guilty of trying to avoid using clichés, as if I were to use one I tend to think that people will assume that I was too lazy to come up with something original or that rather I decided to use an expression that I know could work, rather than risk formulating my own expression that people may not find catchy.

I know that it becomes a bit of a challenge, but if you are not too sure about your ideas, you can always try a cliché, it can bring about the results you are looking for.

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Trust…

Trust is something that is usually hard to establish between people as it is not easy to trust a person, especially if you have been disappointed many times in your life. You begin to lose trust in people and when that happens it isn’t a pleasant experience. Not being able to trust anyone is something that no one should experience.

Some people say that its best not to trust other people as the only person you can truly trust is yourself. You will never disappoint yourself, but other people will always let you down when you least expect them to. You hear stories of betrayal every now and again of people saying that they didn’t expect that kind of behavior from their best friend or even a relative in some cases. I find that sometimes people are too trusting ; they always expect good actions from people they know and even from strangers shockingly, but the world we live in is full of evil. There are just too many people out there who are deceiving and hurting people they know therefore we need to be vigilant when it comes to the people we trust especially those we know as they are the very people who have the power or ability to bring us down.

I know that this may seem very harsh, but it is reality. All I can say is watch your back and be very carefully about the people whom you claim to trust as they may be the very people who stab you in the back.

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Why are goodbyes hard?

Saying good bye to people you are fond of or people that you love is never something that is easy to do. Goodbyes though can be a good thing; it could mean that you are moving on to better things or new experiences. It may be an opportunity to create memories elsewhere as well as meet new people and form new relationships. You may not know what lies ahead but you will certainly hope for the best.

One of the hardest good bye I encountered was when I had to leave the organisation I completed by in-service training at. I had been at the organisation for eight months though it felt that I had been there for years because of the kindness and support I experienced from the people I worked with. The organisation had grown to be my second home and my colleagues had grown to be my second family. There was a whole lot of excitement felt when a person was either getting married or having a baby, it was celebrated by everyone just like a true family.

Upon my last day at work, my friends from work had planned a surprise farewell do for me, I had no idea they were doing this behind my back so luckily I didn’t catch on. Even though at one point I almost did, but that would have spoilt the whole surprise. Suddenly I saw my colleagues in my office getting together and I wondered what was happening. Soon I realised that they were about to bid farewell to me, they had organised some snacks and drinks as well as goodie bag, promotional items of the organisation, flowers and a card signed by everyone in our department. My eyes were full of tears, but I managed to contain myself from crying as some of my colleagues said a few words about what kind of person I am and wished me all the best for the future.

As I left the building at the end of my last day at work, the harsh reality kicked in. I realised that I wouldn’t be coming in there every morning as I have been doing so for the past eight months. We will just have to wait and see though what the future holds for me ….

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Feelings follow behaviour.

We don’t control what we think or how we feel, but we do know what brings happiness to us and what makes us sad therefore in the actions we take, our aim should be to ensure that we feel content with what we do. It doesn’t always work out that way though. We first act upon something, then we realise that we are not satisfied with what we have just done that is the feeling, so we first act on something which is our behaviour then we realise that we are either satisfied or not satisfied with what we have done, that is the way we feel about our behaviour.

Take for example when you have made an agreement with yourself that you would go on a diet and go to the gym regularly, you seem to keep up with the programme you have set up for yourself for a few weeks, then down the line something happens. You indulge in a slice of chocolate mouse cake, and you feel so guilty. You will feel so disappointed with yourself for doing that, but you can always act differently and prevent that from happening again.

We should try to take note of how we feel when we act on something or how we behave, and we should start to change those behaviours that make us feel regretful in the end because feelings do follow behaviour.

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Is hosting your own party a waste of time and money?

Some people enjoy having a lot of friends over in order to celebrate their birthday or some other milestone in their lives. This will mean that you will need money to buy food and drinks which might cost a few thousand Rands depending on the number of people you have invited to your party.

I have come across people who say that they would never hosts a party of their own as it is just a waste of time and money. Firstly you will have to send out invites, which means you will have to buy invites or have them specially made, in some cases you will have to hire a venue, buy food and drinks; which are really not that cheap nowadays. These people say that they would rather use that money on something else such as going on holiday or buying something that will last, rather than feeding a bunch of ungrateful people because at the end of the day you will have nothing to show for it.

I have mix feeling about this as there are advantages and disadvantages of hosting your own party, as firstly I would like to think that if you can afford to have a party why not go ahead and have one if you want to celebrate with your friends and family. Emphasise the need for your guests to bring you gifts so that you also get something in return. Secondly being the party host usually brings a lot of stress, as you are constantly checking if everything is going well and your guests can be very demanding, it can really get annoying as at the end of the day it’s not like you owe them anything.

The bottom line is if you want to have a party, go on and have one don’t worry about what other people have to say about that. If you would like to celebrate your special day or achievement with the most important people in your life, I certainly don’t see anything wrong with that.

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It is better to practice a little than talk a lot.

We have heard it so many times, that as humans we tend to talk a lot rather than actually acting on what we say we will do. I am also guilty of that, saying that I will do something fully knowing that I won’t actually do it is wrong. In some casess , I say that I am going to do something in order to please someone while fully knowing that I have no intentions of doing so .

If you continue to talk a lot and not practice what you say, you will start to appear as someone who is unreliable and full of empty promises. There might be a ton of reasons that prevent people from practising what they preach, but I simply hate it when I come across people who don’t practise what they preach, especially if they go around criticizing how other people live their lives. Those people in actual fact do the very same things they are adamant that they don’t indulge in; behind their closed doors, the only difference is that they are more careful concerning the way they display their actions in public. There are so many hypocrites out there as it is so easy to say things than actually doing them.

I challenge myself to practice a little than talk a lot, are you also up to the challenge? Come on lets be those who stand out from the rest.

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Wedding cake in -the- middle-of -the road.

The moment she woke up; a bride to be was excited to find out that her wedding day had finally arrived. She had been counting the days to it and at last it was her day to wed. Her mother and best friend where there to assist her in putting her makeup on as well as her wedding gown. Once she was dressed, she tearfully thanked them as they each had contributed in making her wedding day possible.

As the bride was ready to leave her home and go to the church where she would exchange vowels with the man of her dreams, she received a phone call informing her that her husband to be had not arrived. Furious as can be she dialed his number only to reach his voicemail, she continued dialing his number hoping to get hold of him but to no avail. She thought to herself that there must be some kind of explanation for this so she shouldn’t panic as Thumi wouldn’t just not turn up at their wedding without an apparent reason.

The bride decided to go to the church, perhaps Thumi would be there by the time she got there she thought. She then received a phone call from Thumi asking her to meet her at his home; where the reception would be, without saying much. In tears the bride made her way to the grooms house, she ran into the house thinking the worst. Thumi was in there dressed in his suite with tears in his eyes. He was having doubts about getting married as he wasn’t sure that he was ready to commit to one person for the rest of his life.

The bride just couldn’t understand what Thumi was saying as she had never imagined that her wedding day could turn out like this. She just walked out of the house without saying a word. Thumi followed her outside and as she made her way to the car; there was someone delivering their wedding cake. The bride grabbed the cake and threw it at Thumi. There it was a wedding cake – in- the- middle –of- the road.

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